They’s this popular saying that “if you’ve not got your health, you’ve gotten anything yet.” This is very true because every sick person who’s not able to use what he’s been able acquire don’t have healthy emotions.
Sirius Black got it right when he said, “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
Aristotle once said, that the greatest need of a man is recognition, these is how just the mind works. The way an healthy person feels differs from how the unhealthy persons feels, we gonna break this down.
I am Just Myself
What are the things you’re embarrassed about? What are your worst qualities? What are the things your haters say about you? Own them. Stephen King once said, “I am the literary equivalent of a Big Mac and fries.” George W. Bush famously said to the Yale graduating class, “To those of you who received honors, awards, and distinctions, I say, well done. And to the C students — I say, you, too, can be President of the United States.”
I am Capable of All Things
Have you ever imagine why is it only the healthy minds that contest elections? you elections are tough, especially knowing its of two possible sides, either you win or lose.
Call this “I can do hard things,” “I can handle whatever life throws at me,” “I’m competent. “Believing we can’t handle things—that we’re incapable or incompetent—drives all anxiety. Indeed, growing people’s belief in their own competence is 50% of what I do in my clinic every day.
So where does the belief of “I’m capable” come from? Experience. Push yourself a little, then a little more. Try new things, talk to new people, go new places. The reward is a sense of your own power and capability that will carry you through the years.
I Can Love and I’m Worthy of Love
Believing you are worthy of love and can give love in return which everyone is, even if you worry you’re the exception pays off for a lifetime.
To build our case, let’s look to Harvard University’s Study of Adult Development, which has followed the lives of 724 men for over 75 years. The study began in 1938 and it continues to this day and beyond. The researchers have gathered data on everything: the men’s physical characteristics, their drinking, their careers, their marriages, their relationships with their mothers, and much more. And what did they find?
Quite simply, as Dr. George Vaillant, the longest-tenured of the study’s four directors summed it up, “Happiness is love. Full stop.” Indeed, the men in the study who were the most satisfied in their relationships—those who felt loved and gave love—at age fifty were the healthiest at age eighty.
Now, if you grew up in a family where you had to earn love through achievement, obedience, or simply keeping quiet and out of the way, this belief might not come easily for you. You may carry around in your core the idea that love has to be earned or worth has to be granted. If that resonates with you, you deserve more than a podcast episode; search out a qualified therapist you like and trust and do some good work.
I Can Stay the Course
This belief gives rise to two attributes: grit and self-control. Grit is staying the course long term: it’s doing difficult or tedious things over months or years in service of a larger goal. You might make a commitment to study algebra every night, even if you hate it, to get your GED. You might bring your lunch to work and skip Starbucks for a year in order to save for that Alaska cruise. You might perform your stand up routine to some lost German tourists, a couple of drunk guys, and the heckler who’s always there in order to further your comedy career.
An healthy mind do fall into temptations, they suffer set backs, but they remain on-course, infact, thy face the hardest things in life but their secret is taking advantage of those tough times.
Act Even When I Don’t Feel Like
Emotionally healthy persons crack codes, explore beyond their boundaries, that’s why they’re wealthy.
Healthy people wakes upon unlikely things, they set pace even when they’re broken, that’s because the mind is very rich.
This belief allows you to handle challenges and be flexible. Life is full of disappointments, mistakes, roadblocks, and attempts to be efficient by bathing your cat during your own shower. But when things go wrong, emotionally healthy individuals adjust rather than giving up or being stubbornly inflexible.
Imagine a continuum and label one end “rigid.” Follow it down the line and you’ll next encounter “flexible,” “spontaneous,” and finally, at the other extreme end, “impulsive.” We want to float somewhere in the middle—the flexible-spontaneous realm.
But being flexible doesn’t just apply to actions. To be sure, flexibility includes retooling your study habits after failing the first exam or rethinking your route home when there’s unexpected construction, but it’s also more than that.